Marry Once and Marry Right: Why Patience Pays in Love

By Comfort Udeme

Many of us don’t truly understand what marriage entails. We often think it’s all about fun—going on vacations, enjoying honeymoons, having kids, and living together as husband and wife. Some rush into it because “my mates are getting married at 23, so why should I wait?”

No, my dear sister. Before you rush into marriage, remember: marriage is a forever deal.

Imagine dating someone for five months. He buys you gifts, gives you plenty of money, buys you wigs and luxurious clothes—and you feel like you’re in paradise. But after marriage, you might wake up to the harsh reality of choosing wrong.

Many divorced couples today still regret rushing into marriage. Many single mothers are battling depression, and many couples live without peace—fighting every day after marriage. Is that the kind of marriage you want? From peace to pieces?

Why not calm down and understand the real purpose of marriage? Take your time to study the person you’re dating. Pray for God’s direction.

Before marrying, have something meaningful to do—learn a skill, build a career, educate yourself, understand your emotions, and achieve some of your personal goals. Because once you’re married, responsibilities will pile up, and it becomes harder to chase those dreams.

Don’t rush into marriage.
Marry once—and marry right.